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Feb 05, 2004


Nigel and Anita

We've only just learned of Emma's death - from phone message from Linda and email from Ernest - and only just discovered the CandyGirl blog. What courage!
We are deeply sad, and send love to Linda and Ernest, Meroe and Rob, and the rest of the family.


I just came across Candygirl's blog a few weeks ago. Seeing the bravery of her struggle has touched my life more than anyone could ever know. She will be, already is, missed, and my heart goes out to her family.

Andrew Quick

Words can never express what we mean to say at times like this.

I will always remember Emma sitting in the local during our lunch hours laughing uncontrollably at the size of the chip butties in front of us all.
It is a lovely image to keep of a very special person.

My thoughts at this time are with her family.

Andy (3T)


I am a friend of Emma's sister, Meroe and met Emma only a couple of times back when Meroe first lived in Sheffield. Like all the other notes I remember someone who was full of fun and smiles and most obviously a special person to Meroe.

This is the first time I have looked at this website and it should be an inspiration to everyone of how strong one person can be in the face of such an awful illness. At this time my love and best wishes go to all of Emma's loved ones, but most especially Meroe - we'll have a 'pop tart' style night with Sair soon and raise a glass to Emma.

Vics xx

Beth W.

I never had the privilege of meeting Emma in person, but through this amazing technology of the internet and web logging, we read each other's stories and connected. The words of tribute written here by Candygirl's family and friends confirm what she communicated in her blog -- that here was a fine, talented, loving young woman, courageous and spirited in her journey. Tremendous class. A meaningful life.

I hope all of you who love Emma find comfort and solace.

We shared a love of fun hats. I sent her one of me in a rediculous white furry hat I had gotten as an exchange student in Peru way back in 1968. In her response to me, it was clear she wanted that hat (especially if she could get in hot pink!)

A tiny piece of the star that is Emma has lodged in my heart. I feel her energy. It will stay there, combined with my own.

Ruth Kent

Miss Emma Candy. What am I going to do without your no-nonense appproach to my everyday worries? Who is going to put me back on track when I start getting into a tizzy about, well, not very much at all really??
I want a cup of tea in your garden in New Cross. I want us to fantasise about starting our own interior design company. I want to tease you about all those very cerebral-looking books in your lounge that you hadn't quite gotten around to reading yet. I want to ask you what you thought of those Goons tapes I sent you. I love you to bits. Ruth xx


I shared a house with Emma in Manchester for just under 2 years. Ive shared with countless people over the years, some you get close to, some you don't. We we're close, we had our ups and downs but ultimately Emma was there for me & i cared deeply about her. This feels pretty bad for me, but Emma was no longer a part of my everyday life, so i can only imagine how tough it must be for those closest right now . Ive not met Colin but it just seems so right that he came into her life when he did.
It's still sinking in, i didn't think she'd really go, i thought i'd see her again. Only last Sunday i sent her a text about some stupid tv program with Paris Hilton slumming it on a hill billy farm which i knew she would appreciate(lunch time, channel 4 - honestly your jaw will drop at the stupidity & ignorance of this woman). No doubt Dawson (of the Creek) would have something deeply profound to say about all this, but me i'm a simple man so i'll just say "Safe journey Em, hope to catch you again next time... "


I've just finished reading this book "Journey of souls" by Michael Newton. It deals with case studies of past life regression to uncover what goes on between lives and basically 'what it's all about'. It's helped me make sense of all this, i'm sure if you check it out, it will help you too.
Heres a link to it:

Emma R

Hi, I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear this news. I'm a friend of Soph and Adie who worked with Emma at Oyster in London, and who are now out in Sydney. Soph sent me the link to Emma's blog last week and I've read through quite a lot since then. I have never met Emma but her personality and strength leaps out, as does the love of all of you. I guess I just want to say that I'm very sorry, and that I'm thinking of you all.

Emma R xxx


Across thousands of miles we've all thought about her constantly, and we will keep doing that. Much love,


I am deeply sorry for your loss. A very difficult time, hard to imagine, hard to find what to say.

My condolences to you and to the rest of your family.


Bernie Goldbach

I was trying to get into the right state of mind because I'm five days away from marking the first anniversary of my dad's death from cancer. It hurts so much to lose friends. My dad was proud he wasn't on the Internet. He's now because I blogged him there. Based on the comments here and the emotions I feel inside, I doubt Em will ever lose her place in cyberspace. I consider her as the first heavenly URL in my link list.

Mena Trott

We, at Six Apart (the company that makes TypePad, the service that powers Emma's weblog), were extremely moved by the statement that her blog made her happy in these last months. Many of us have read Emma's weblog before so the news of her death was particularly sad.

To make sure that her family and friends will definitely be able to read her weblog in the future, could someone from the family contact me at mena at We can talk about all the options to preserve her weblog.


Thanks Mena...I've emailed you to arrange this.

Sue Thomas

I'm writing on behalf of everyone at the trAce Online Writing Centre, where Linda is a member of our Management Board. Linda and Ernest have both helped and advised us for a long time but we were completely unaware of their own personal troubles. Tonight it comes as a shock to learn of Emma's illness and passing.

I never met Emma, but I see her mother in these pictures, that same friendly face and open smile. Now, the next time I see Linda, I will be able to think of Emma too. . .

In friendship


Fredy Ore

My thoughts are with Emma, Ernest and family. This is my first time visiting Emma's blog, I am 1-2 degrees of separation from Em.

You know..., Sometimes you don't realise just how much you are touched by friends, their thoughts and friendship...

I am a friend of Sophie and UTS lecturer Ernest, and I was deeply saddened to hear of their loss. Never meeting Emma, I feel I knew her in some way. Her strength passed onto me, by her friends and family without even realising it.

I realised today, exactly what Emma wrote about, what she was trying to say, that "we need to make more of our friendships that really matter."

My thoughts are with her family, friends and all who knew her.


Gina Smith

Dear friends and family of Emma,

I am so sorry for your loss.

Marion & George

Dear Linda, Ernest, Meroe, Rob & Nicki
We are so so sorry to get your sad news. Emma's plucky fight was so typical of her and such a tonic to those of us less courageous. We will remember always her winning smile and shy, sincere manner and sharp intelligence. Our thoughts are with you all at this time.
George and Marion with love

Retro Girl

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I enjoyed coming to her blog every day. She will be greatly missed by all who stopped by here daily on their trips around the blog world.

Steve Moore

My thoughts and love are with Colin, Emma's family and all her friends.

After hearing of Emma through mutual friends over a number of years I was finaly lucky to meet her at the end of last year, at last I could put a face to the name. I then spent new year with Colin Emma and other friends in Wales, Emma was a true inspiration.

For me Emma has changed a pointless plod of 26 miles around London in April to a marathon with a purpose and a cause. I will try and take some of Emma's brave fight with me to the start line and raise all I can for the benfit of future fighters of cancer.

With Love to all that new her.

Steve x


I sort of knew Emma all my life and wish I had the taken the opportunity to get to know her better when we lived just 5 minutes from each other in Chorlton. But I will remember the crazy ride we had back from Loughborough and a great brunch in the Lead Station. Her courage should be inspiration to us all.

Simon Aldis

I met Emma regularly up until we both left for university via our parent's friendship.In our early teens I vividly recall that she was the only person I knew who would swop/share books with me which contained sexual references; to save reading complete novels we would suggest page numbers! I was always excited when I knew the families were meeting. I remember her as always scary(to an adolescent boy) but fun.


I always wanted to try and do more for Emma. Nursing someone like her makes you feel so helpless. We enjoyed a giggle together during difficult times, it was great to see her smile. Reading her blog has shown me she was the person I thought she was, popular, sassy and stylish. It is hard to watch families go through these times. Colin, Linda, Ernest and Meroe my thoughts are with you all.
Rebecca (Australian Nurse from LBH)


Good bye, Candygirl. Know that your words filled my heart and that I followed your struggle with silent prayers and healing thoughts. May you sleep the sleep of peace and be reunited with your family in eternity. Your smile filled the screen always.


I am so glad I came to Emma's birthday last November. That characteristic electric smile of hers lifted even my cowardly heart. It was so good to see her surrounded by her family and so many friends.

Emma was always honest, clever, funny , loving, loveable, tenacious and breath-takingly brave. Lately, she had the guts to explore those dark places most people quite understandably won't even acknowledge.

She was my surrogate little sister. She simply made life much more interesting. Her cousins are missing her deeply.

My thoughts are with Meroë (my other splendid and beloved niece), Colin, Linda, Ernest , Rob and Nik. (and the brand new Emma Louise who, I have heard, is wonderful).

We all loved Em from the start and there's no reason that that should stop now!

From Nicky and, of course, Charles, David and Thomas

Dave Burraston

Both thoughts and condolences go out to Ernest, Linda and your family and friends from myself and my family. My mum lost her only brother through stomach cancer when I was young and we understand what a difficult time this must be. Our deepest sympathies go out to you all.

Dave and the Burraston family.

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